The Happy in Happy New Year
By SCN Blog Contributor Jim Phillips
Every year at this time I reflect on what has been experienced over the preceding 12-month period. Did I accomplish what I had set as my intentions? Did life unfold as I expected it to? Were there experiences or events that took place that were totally unexpected? Am I different than I was 12 months ago?
As I go through this annual exercise I also consider the upcoming year. What is it that I most want to experience? What is it that I can do to make a difference in other people’s lives through my work, and quite honestly, just in my being who I am?
My thoughts also encompass what I believe others want, not only in the upcoming year but in life as we all continue our respective journey. Yes, I believe most want success in whatever terms that means to them. However, when asked, I find most people say, “I just want to be happy and joyful. I want to be at peace with who I am.” And of course, when it comes to our children we certainly say we want them to be happy, safe and at peace.
So why is it that when we get to each New Year we make resolutions about losing weight, getting into a healthy relationship, exercising more, getting a new job, etc., when in Truth what we desire is to be happy? What if this year instead of making a resolution about something outside of us we set the intention to be happy? What if we make choices over the course of the year that allow our happiness to be experienced and expressed?
Yes, stuff will happen during the year that present challenging opportunities however we can still be happy and joyful in the face of adversity. In fact, joy and happiness should stem from the truth that we always have a choice, no matter what happens, in how we will experience the event. We always have a choice in how we will experience life, not necessarily a choice in what happens in life, but most certainly how we will experience the events of life.
What I have come to understand is that happiness is the state of being as it relates to one’s relationship with their Self. Happiness is in direct proportion to a person’s love, appreciation, respect and acceptance of and for themselves.
Consider why you do anything that you do? If we are honest with ourselves we will come to the conclusion that we do what we do because of the way it makes us feel. When we do something on behalf of another person we feel good about our Self. When we have succeeded at something we feel good about our Self and what we have achieved.
Let’s get to the point of setting intentions for the New Year. We can intend to lose weight which in truth is a way of saying that when I do I will feel better about myself and therefore be happy. We can say that I intend to get a better job and therefore better provide for my family, however in truth it is about feeling better about my Self because I am providing more for my family and therefore feeling happy.
Happiness is the result of a healthy, loving relationship with our self. This loving relationship stems from self-love, self-respect, self-appreciation, self-acknowledgement, self-kindness, self-trust, self-honor, self-awareness and self-forgiveness. Some will say this is self-serving or self-centered, and yes, it is, however honoring and loving one’s self doesn’t mean we do so at the expense of others or that we in any way feel superior to others.
“It has been said that we are to “love thy neighbor as we love our self.”
Seeing how most people treat themselves this doesn’t bode well for our neighbors.”
When we are living in a healthy, loving relationship with our Self we are in alignment with our truth. We make choices that honor and respect our truth and the truth of others. We make choices that are in the highest and best good. Choices that empower and expand, not those that would diminish the experience of who we are. When we have a healthy, loving relationship with our Self we are empowered. The more empowered we are the better we can serve and be of benefit to others and the world.
For 2017 I invite you to set the intention to be in a healthy, loving relationship with your Self. Enjoy, appreciate, accept and be Happy with who you are and what you are here to create and experience. Know that who you are is who you are intended to be and that all that is required to live in full expression of that truth is always available to you. When we are happy and at peace with our Self, happiness and peace is what we extend to one another and the world. The more each of us is happy the more at peace is the world. The more at peace is the world the happier we will all be.
Here’s to the “Happy” new year!
Jim Phillips is an author, speaker and certified L.I.F.E. and business coach. For the better part of 30 years he has been an entrepreneur and business leader inspiring others to higher levels of achievement through his presentations throughout the United States and parts of Europe.
His true passion however is the exploration and application of spiritual law as it applies to prosperity and overall quality of life. One of Jim’s gifts is his ability to help others understand and apply complex spiritual concepts to their personal life.
At the age of thirteen Jim had an experience that confirmed to him he had a specific message to share about our connection to the Divine. This message was to be shared when the time was right, that time is now.
Jim graduated from James Madison University in Harrisonburg, VA. He currently resides in Aldie, VA where he continues his writing, coaching and speaking. www.prosperitybydesign.com